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I use facebook a lot, and other kinds of social networks. I met this guy. He is so sweet. He told me to meet him somewhere nobody can see us. I suggested the mall. He said, “No, somewhere with less people.” Should I go? I’m kinda scared, but I want to meet him too…
You shouldn’t meet him somewhere private. You don’t know who he really is. He might be faking everything about himself. Even if he wants to meet you in a public place, it’s best to just say, “No.” He might want to do more than you’re comfortable with, even if he says he doesn’t, and he might use force. You shouldn’t meet everyone you talk to online, and you shouldn’t give away your personal information such as your home phone and address either. If you want to be more sure about who he is or who he says he is, get him to video call with you. It’s harder to fake it live, but if all you have seen of him is pictures, don’t trust him completely. In the end, the decision is up to you. Just make sure you take care of yourself and don’t do anything you might regret.
Dear Ronaldo 7,
I miss my boyfriend so much. He doesn’t seem to love me anymore. What should I do?
Dear Missing Him,
The first thing you should do is talk to him about it. It could be that he is going through something right now and isn’t sure if he wants to tell you until he sorts it out. It could also be that he is dissatisfied with some aspect of your relationship, in which case talking about it is the best option. It might be hard to accept and deal with the consequences of that particular conversation, so brace yourself. If it does turn out that he doesn’t love you anymore, take it easy. As often as we would prefer all relationships to work, a lot of them don’t. It might seem hard to take it easy, but imagine this as an opportunity to look for something better or to focus on something else. If your relationship ends, time, and often your friends, will help you get over it. If it’s not such a serious problem, talking about it will put your mind, and his, at ease.
Dear Lady J,
I am a sophomore in high school and I just found out the most terrifying news a person my age can receive. I’M PREGNANT! I am so scared. I don’t know what to do or who to tell. I don’t want to tell my parents because they will kill me. I haven’t even told my boyfriend because I’m afraid of what his reaction will be. Will he leave me or support me? Having a baby just wasn’t in my plans right now. I just need to know what I should do in a situation like this. PLEASE HELP ME!
Dear Lost Sophomore,
First things first: tell your boyfriend. You won’t know how he feels unless you inform him. It is his fault as much as it is yours. You’re both responsible for the consequences of being teen parents. Secondly, telling your parents is very important. You are only a minor, so you need them and their support. When it comes to your parents, you could just tell them the old-fashioned way, which is sitting them down to have a face-to-face conversation, or you could write them a letter telling them your situation and what you have planned to do. It may be easier if you just tell one parent first. Either way, your parents will freak out about it. It’s normal to be scared. Most teen pregnancies aren’t planned! But if you don’t have parents or don’t think they’ll help, then you should consider talking to the school nurse or a social worker.
Here are some available resources that might also be of some help:
Adoption Center for Family Building
Aid for Women of Northern Lake County